I made a big breakthrough 2 or 3 years ago.  I printed out “I love you, Fleming” as many times as it fit on a sheet of paper and used to say at least 3 malas of that during meditation (3 times 108 repetitions of “I love you, Fleming”.)

Something shifted a few weeks later. I had told myself I love me more often than all the people in my life ever told me that they do.  That meant something, I am here for me!

As Rabbi Hillel said “If I am not for me, who will be?  And if not now, when?”